Dating Stress

Dating Online

Here we share with you ideas that will give you a little more ease with dating and coping with the stress on the first date.

First, there are a few questions we must address and bring out into the open. How much should we get to know the potential date before meeting?  What discussion or prefacing is required with your potential date prior to the meeting?  How does this potential date feel about you, or does this person also share in this anxiety?  After the rendezvous is established where will you meet to insure safety, enjoyment and relaxation? 

Let’s dive into the first question: How much should we get to know the potential date before meeting?  This question begs of the actual legitimacy of the potential date. Is this, person really genuine?  What is this person’s background?  These questions are not as easy to answer, but we can start with the following. The method of communication is incredibly important.  Phone communication, although a little nerve racking, can break the ice and establish an initial understanding of who this person is.  Try to avoid creating a mental image of this person as this can really increase expectations and also give the other person an unfair disadvantage (i.e. relating the voice to a physical mental image). The phone conversation can also shed light on this person's general character.

This leads to what discussions or prefacing is required.  It is important to acknowledge that this place we live is very diverse and the person's character is one of the most important attributes of desirability.  Be softly direct when inquiring about his or her background without invoking the feeling that you are drilling the person which is a real "turn-off".  Write down a few background questions to ask prior to calling the potential date and go from there. The conversation can take on with its own energy from there and it will be very easy to get a good feeling for the person. That is to say, if the person is not forthright, it will most likely come through in the conversation.

In most cases, the other person will exhibit the same anxiety as you. Keep this in mind, as it will help your nerves a little. Being confident, honest, direct and respectful will help you and the date feel an increased level of comfort whether you’re on the phone, or on the first date.

On this first date, make sure that you select, or mutually agree to a place that will help the date flourish and keep the other person wanting more.  Obviously, you should select a meeting place that is well lit and where there will be many eyes watching you for increased safety. However, the place that you will spend the most time should be softly lit so that most of the concentration can be focused on the content of the conversation and less on physical characteristics. More importantly, span the first date no more than that of a small snack. You can consider this a "weed-out" session. If there is chemistry during the date, he or she will leave waiting more. Conversely, if there is no chemistry, not much time was lost and not much money was spent.

Remember, these important ideas to engender ease and confidence during the initial contact through online dating services. Choose a method of communication prior to the meeting that will help you determine the person’s forthrightness.  Understand that the other person is probably feeling the same level of anxiety to which you can offer the comfort. Finally, choose a place that demonstrates safety and allows for a short but memorable experience.

Dating - Stress Hurts Relationship

Stress is one of the most common used words. It is also one of the most common problems we all face. Stress kills the joy of living. Think about your friends, and you will surely point to one who always looks stressed. Who rushes from one work to another? Who has no time to sit down and think peacefully? Stress is the way of life for him/her.

What kind of success do such people get in dating? Not very much! Let us see why? They will be stressed with the very thought of how the date will go? Whether the setting will be right/ whether he/she like me/ what if I speak some rubbish and hurt her/him? All such negative thoughts come in the mind of such people. They kill all the positive thoughts and think passively as if the sky was going to fall down.

On the day of dating, they would somehow miss the time. They may not have chosen the proper outfit? They would rush to the meeting place and disturb their mind in the process. It is the game of stress. Stress then is caused by thinking about - what if everything goes wrong? And predictably because of the stress, everything goes wrong.

Please relax. Let things go wrong if that is destined. Don’t worry about them. Relax and prepare calmly. Meet your date with an undisturbed mind. Don’t rush. If you are late say sorry and go forward. Try to enjoy and try to make your date enjoy your togetherness. Let the stress go and good and positive thought come in your mind. Stress never helps in dating, since it rather kills all the chances of success.

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